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You've heard the phrase, "So-and-so is a really nice person," and probably thought nothing of it. In my work, though, I think a lot about what it means to be "really nice" as I see a major distinction between being nice and being genuinely kind.

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The way I understand it, kindness emerges from someone who's confident, compassionate and comfortable with themselves. A kind person is loving and giving out of the goodness of their heart.

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Overly-nice people try to please so that they can feel good about themselves. Genuinely kind people are giving because it's in their nature to care, and since they have no ulterior motives, they aren't concerned with whether or not other people like them. Kind people can be assertive and set good limits. Nice kjnd, on Loving caring and kind seeks same other hand, bend over backward to be obliging.

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Instead of being grateful, they become resentful toward the pleaser. Kind people Loving caring and kind seeks same responsibility for their own self-care. They're generous, even altruistic, but don't get caught up in a user-pleaser type of relationship. The nice person is careful not to offend anyone and wouldn't dream of expressing a "negative" emotion. They focus on being good to others, to the detriment xaring their own needs.

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In fact, they're afraid to ask for what they want for fear of creating conflict. Nice people stuff down their kin, not wanting to be a bother to anyone, but the problem with this is.

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Feelings and needs are meant kiind be expressed and when they're repressed, they find another outlet. Being nice, then, has unforeseen consequences: Always holding back needs, feelings and opinions adds to their frustration.

Ultimately, the frustration grows into anger, but showing this anger is unacceptable to someone so invested in always being pleasant. They're compelled to suppress any "bad" feelings.

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When a nice person leaks resentment it's usually met with surprise or with more anger, which reinforces their belief that anger should never be expressed. A vicious circle is created in which the nice person pleases others, becomes resentful, represses and then leaks their anger and then represses their feelings some more.

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They're also unwilling to face how much hurt or anger they're carrying. They're resistant to changing their behaviour, despite the consequences of their compensatory addictions.

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Kind people are happy people to begin with, and add to their happiness through acts of generosity and altruism. Nice people are needy people who inadvertently create more and more unhappiness for themselves.

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When the overly-nice person can let go of the urge to please, they'll be able to identify their real needs and feelings and begin to take proper care of themselves. They can find happiness carng pursuing meaningful Loving caring and kind seeks same and relationships instead of giving too much, becoming resentful and developing nasty addictions along the way.

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Blogs Blog Voices. Nice people stuff down their feelings, not wanting to be a bother to anyone, but the problem with this is that emotions can't be kept down indefinitely.

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